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Parenting a Child with ADHD

Aarti Odhrani
Clinical Psychologist
MSc.

Parenting a child with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) can present unique challenges. It can be quite demanding to deal with behavioral problems such as defiance, missing deadlines, forgetting to do chores; social problems such as difficulty reading social cues or fitting in with peers; and emotional struggles such as low self-confidence, frustration, anxiety, guilt, or shame. However, with the right strategies and supports in place, parents can work towards creating a nurturing environment that will promote their child’s wellbeing and help them to succeed.

Here are some tips to help you manage your child’s ADHD:

Educating Yourself – An essential part of effectively parenting a child with ADHD would involve understanding the condition by getting to know the hallmark symptoms which are inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. Research shows that these children generally find it harder to pay attention, stay organized, and manage their emotions due to certain chemical imbalances in the brain. It is helpful to understand that there are some general triggers such as stress, lack of sleep, unstructured time, diet, that can worsen the symptoms of ADHD, as well as triggers that are specific to your child such as overstimulation, excessive use of technology, etc. Keeping up with the latest research will help you understand and manage your child’s behaviour better.

Establishing Consistent Routines and Structure – Children with ADHD need a structured environment to thrive. While a lack of structure can exacerbate symptoms, consistent routines and clear expectations will help them feel secure and improve their focus. It is advisable to create a daily schedule that includes times for meals, homework, play and sleep. This can be done using visual aids such as charts, calendars, or digital apps, to help them understand and follow a routine. It is easier for children to follow tasks that are broken down into smaller and more manageable steps, and when parents/adults provide them with gentle reminders when transitioning between activities.

Encouraging Physical Activity and Healthy Habits – Physical activity plays a vital role in managing ADHD symptoms. Engaging your child in regular exercise such as outdoor play, sports, or dance can help release excess energy, improve focus, and reduce impulsivity. In addition to physical activity, it is necessary to promote a balanced diet that minimizes the consumption of processed foods and sugary snacks, which can exacerbate ADHD symptoms.

Using Positive Reinforcement and Clear Communication – Children with ADHD often respond well to positive reinforcement. Praise and reward your child for their efforts and progress in addition to their achievements. It is also crucial to communicate with them clearly using simple, direct instructions while maintaining eye contact when speaking to them. Strict punishment, long lectures, and excessive criticism can be counterproductive as it would heighten stress, cause them to feel frustrated, undermine their self-esteem, and damage the parent-child relationship.

Creating an Organized and Distraction-Free Environment for Study – A clutter free and organized environment can help your child stay focused and reduce distractions. Establishing a designated study area with minimal visual and auditory distractions and the use of organizers, colour coded folders, and labels can help keep their belongings and schoolwork organized. As with their daily activities, once again prioritizing tasks, making to-do-lists, breaking tasks down into manageable chunks and using timers can help them stay on track and manage their time effectively.

Seeking Professional Guidance – Liaise with school personnel and consult with professionals such as pediatricians, neurologists, psychiatrists, psychologists, or therapists who specialize in ADHD to help support your child’s overall development.

Parenting a child with ADHD requires patience, understanding, and a proactive approach. Remember, every child is unique, so tailor your strategies to their individual needs and seek out professional support when needed.

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