Mariam El Halawani Art Psychotherapist MAAT, ATR
Rejection is an inevitable part of the human experience. Whether it’s a job we didn’t get, a relationship that didn’t work out, an unaccepted university application, or a friend who drifts away, rejection can sting deeply. Yet, it is also a universal occurrence, meaning we are not alone in our experiences of being turned away.
The first step in managing rejection is to acknowledge your feelings. Rejection often elicits an emotional response, such as sadness, anger, or confusion. It’s important to give yourself permission to feel these emotions rather than suppress them. By acknowledging and accepting your feelings, you initiate the process of healing.
It’s equally important to maintain perspective. In the face of rejection, we might be tempted to generalize the experience, thinking we always fail or are never chosen. However, rejection is often not a reflection of our self-worth or capabilities. It might be that we were not a fit for a particular role, relationship, or group at that specific time, and it does not determine our future successes or relationships.
Reframing the narrative around rejection can also be a powerful tool. Instead of viewing it as a personal failure, we can see it as a redirection to opportunities better aligned with our abilities and values. It can be a motivation for growth, pushing us to develop resilience and learn more about ourselves and what we truly desire.
Self-compassion is crucial during times of rejection. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend in a similar situation. Engage in activities that foster self-love and remind you of your worth, like pursuing hobbies, being around loved ones, or practicing meditation.
Finally, use rejection as a learning experience. Analyze what happened and ask yourself if there are any takeaways that can aid your personal or professional development. Maybe there’s a skill you can hone, or perhaps it’s an indication to move in a different direction altogether. In summary, rejection is not an end but rather a part of the journey. By accepting our emotions, keeping perspective, reframing our experiences, practicing self-compassion, and learning from the situation, we can navigate through the pain of rejection and emerge more resilient and self-aware.
Remember, every ‘no’ brings us closer to the ‘yes’ that matters!
Helpful resources:
TED Talk: How to deal with rejection: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KO6bbZOc2B4
Book: Letting Go, the Pathway of Surrender
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